Pro-Actively waiting for the BFP to arrive

Fertility treatments can be very stressful because so much is at stake. As we realize that we might need to get pregnant with the help of treatments, we tend to think that something is wrong with us. The word “broken” often comes to mind and we get to feel very low about our abilities to achieve our life dream goal.

As a Coach and as someone who went through many years of infertility treatments, I know how important it is to stay inspired and positive through the process. We have no control over this process and when it will result in a positive pregnancy. This puts us in a position of waiting. How can we pro-actively wait? With the right tools we can turn this time to be one of extreme value to our personal growth. These tools can also help in the way we “show up” for our partners and future kids in our day-to-day life.

Here are some points on how to Pro-Actively wait during the time of infertility treatments and/or while waiting for adoption or a Gestational Carrier/Surrogate:

Infertility treatments can be a lonely place

Infertility is a strange thing.  So many people are affected by it, yet no two journeys are the same.

As a fertility coach that went through six years of infertility treatments, I can relate to the emotional impact it has on the life of everyone going through the process. I remember the first steps in this journey, the uncertainty, the fear, the stress and mostly the long lonely hours that come with the process.

We are raised to believe that when we work hard and put our best efforts into a task, chances are that we will succeed in achieving it. Such a belief systems doesn’t work when it comes to infertility treatments. All the brave women that have been through this process have done their BEST and placed all their efforts into the process, yet no one could promise them that it will work.

Relinquishing worry – Another gift of Infertility

Relinquishing worry

Waiting teaches us to dwell fully where we are. When we don’t control our circumstances and we can’t predict the future, we have the opportunity to live in the present.  From the book Seven Spiritual Gifts of Waiting.

We all have experienced the stress that is involved while trying to conceive; yet we also have experienced the hope that comes when we are ready to start our journey of infertility treatments. This is the time when I learned that I can let go of trying to “fix” a situation and finally get help for something I couldn’t figure out on my own… 

The Power of Intention – Inviting your unborn baby

We all know that IVF treatments are extremely stressful. They put us in a vulnerable space with lots of emotions coming up as a result.  However, I must say that after a few IVF cycles I realized the first gift that came to me as a result.

That gift was hope.

The main difference between times that I was in a cycle and the times I wasn’t – was the ability to experience hope.

Having hope is such a big factor in everybody’s life. Without hope, life can get really hard. Hope gave me the strength to fully show up for my process. It made the difference between being positive and being scared, sad, stressed and negative.

Day 10 post embryo transfer and the gifts it brings – Not always the one we expected

Good morning day 10 post embryo transfer. Good morning world…

That harsh understanding that what you have hoped to be the last IVF cycle in your life, is just another one, another one in many…

Here we are once again, sunshine coming through the bedroom shades, sending smiles from the universe for another beautiful day. I just woke up and realize that inside my heart no sun is shining at the moment, just silence and darkness, that same energy that comes up after every negative pregnancy test. A sad quiet heart and a very tired body looking at the sunshine coming through the window feeling so disconnected and far away from that vivid energy that they bring along.

The IVF process is a hard one, we all know that. At times it feels to me like it’s a theater show that each of us orchestrates in their head about this being the perfect IVF cycle. Come to think about it, during an IVF cycle you think you are in control, you think you know the show, you think you get the story line, you think you get the ending, you think you know the bigger meaning or message of the play.

Create change and win the game of infertility

In my practice as a Fertility Coach, I work with professional, goal-oriented women who are on the path to parenthood. Often they come up against obstacles which seem too difficult to get around. I see firsthand how a shift in their thinking can impact their lives. Once their brain pathways are open, new ways of thinking take hold and they are able to move from dilemma, to insight and ultimately to bring positive changes into their lives. The power is within them, they simply need guidance to access it.

There is a connection between the power of brain-based coaching and reaching one of life’s greatest achievements — parenthood. During my own fertility treatments,

A few tips before you start your next IVF cycle

So by now everyone has told you that fertility treatments can be very stressful on many levels because so much is at stake. Taking good care of yourself throughout the process is one of the best way to combat that stress.  By taking care of yourself, you ensure that you are in the best place you can possibly be, both physically and emotionally.

One of the most effective ways of managing stress and take control of the situation is to prepare yourself for what is to come. Here is a list of things you can do to help

Bringing the power of brain-based coaching to the fertility process

Thank you Jill for this opportunity to share with the readers of your blog, some thoughts and insights on re-wiring the brain to support the fertility journey.

The brain is designed to help us achieve whatever it focuses on – even pregnancy. By the same token, it can work against us when it perceives a threat. David Rock, author of Your Brain at Work and founder and CEO of Results Coaching Systems, talks about threats vs. rewards in our thinking. Our brain recognizes a threat much faster than a reward. It gives these threats a lot of attention and decreases our ability to have insights. By focusing on the perceived threat it prevents us from thinking, acting, or interacting creatively.

Affirmations to practice during an IVF cycle

Affirmations are positive statements that describe a desired situation. During fertility treatments its extremely important to stay positive and have a quiet mind. Our thinking plays a big factor in the outcome of the process.

To quiet our mind during each and every stage of an IVF process we need to set aside all the old wirings (thinking) that are telling us things are going to go wrong, we are not doing well, or any other ideas that are negative and will not support our desired outcome.

To change our wirings we need to practice a new type of thinking,